RELIEF OF PARTICULAR SYMPTOMS FOR SELF-MANAGEMENT OF ANXIETY: PREMATURE EJACULATION
This is the condition in which the man comes to a climax too soon. It is disturbing to the husband and even more disturbing to his wife. It is a complaint which women often make about their husbands to a psychiatrist, but rarely tell the husband himself for fear of hurting his feelings. And this is very wise too, as many men are extremely sensitive about such matters.
Premature ejaculation is a common symptom of anxiety. In fact, when we are anxious all our responses come too quickly—we rush at things, we move too quickly. If someone calls us, we turn immediately. There is no leisure about our reactions. It is the same in our sports. In tennis and golf we swing too quickly; when skiing we turn too quickly and the natural rhythm has gone from us. So it is in the sexual response. It is too quick. It is all over in a minute. There is no time for the easy flow of emotion; and both husband and wife are left unsatisfied. From talking with those who visit me, I believe that minor degrees of this condition must be very common.
The relaxing exercises reduce our anxiety. The special exercises concern the relaxing of the deep muscles of the parts. These muscles are basically similar in both men and women. In the women they have to relax to allow free and easy penetration; and the feeling of this relaxation helps the proper emotional response. In the man, a similar relaxation of these muscles holds off the climax, and allows time for both his emotional fulfilment and the biologically slower response of his wife.
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